Fashion Question: Am I A Goth?

Fashion is one of those things that people take personally. Don't you dare tell a girl her nail polish is out of style, you might get cut, after all many of us spend a lot of time developing our look. But how do you know what you are? I mean, are you a prep? Are you one of those what are they called, *gasp*, Goths? Labels are very tricky things now. And to be honest, labels are something that most people assume are left behind as we leave school. But there is room to argue that some fields are never outgrown.

Goth by definition is not a fashion statement. That's the first thing I was told by someone who was having issues with the idea of having to classify themselves as anything. They were barbarian invaders to Rome. But we all know time changes all things, and Goth is now considered to be a alternative fashion type. Alternative? Yeah, even though they're more accepted they still aren't accepted wholeheartedly by everyone.

But it isn't really difficult to be a goth in everyday life, and stay under the radar. Why? Because most people aren't looking for us. This gives us our personal space, and our time to evolve. Every Goth is different.

But the Goth staple is black as far as society is concerned. I doubt that there's a goth that hasn't worn black head to toe at least once. And when it comes to stereotypes this is what society generally sees us as. But this isn't necessarily true. Though it would make it easier to identify our like minded compatriots, it's not that easy. The generalizations help most people to be comfortable with the group though, and that's partly why it is longstanding.

But we hate to burst the bubble, we do like color too. Some of us like Green, some of us like red, heck name a color of the rainbow, or the whole thing, and there's a goth that dabbles in it. Each one is different, and while we do have some similarities, we are not the same. I happen to like greys and blues.

You don't have to be perfect. Accepting who you are and what you like is really what makes being a Goth enjoyable. If you're not happy, it's not who you are. You should be comfortable in your skin. What you wear, doesn't make you, but it does help others to decide how to react to you and what to expect from you. If you're in your work uniform, they can still tell.

And, yes. I think I'm a goth, sometimes at least. It's one of the few fashion styles I can agree with.  I don't wear a lot of makeup, I don't wear a lot of wild and outrageous clothes or accessories either(at least in my opinion I don't). So don't think that you need to. As far as I believe; If you think you are something, you are, if that's what you want to be.  There is no such thing as a Goth card, so go ahead and be happy.

Not Lost...

But not yet found.

It's been a long while now since I've sat down and managed to attempt any updates here. To be a little honest, there's really been very little to say. My life isn't very exciting and it's been turning into a rather mundane and boring thing. Yet, it's unfair not to let you in on the story. Just because I don't find it particularly interesting currently, doesn't mean that some of you won't enjoy bits and pieces here and there.

Since March things have been a little busy as far as what I've been doing out in the world. I suppose maybe I should give a month by month synopsis of what's been going on. But it's not always as simple as just saying Hey! look! listen!

Before I get to far into things. Yes I'm still subbing at the school. (for now at least, am lucky thay're still letting me). Every other weekend (unless something comes up that I have to do) I get to spend with my good friend Emma, and sometimes we're lucky and get to see Amy too. And yes I do have a significant other still.

MARCH
We (meaning the whole family)participated in the Old First Ward Saint Patrick's Day Parade.

APRIL
April saw a lot of Easter time activities.

MAY
May was a little wonky weather wise.

JUNE
In June things were a bit quiet on the event front. But I did get to attend and interesting training event.

JULY
We helped decorate the float for the fourth of July in Orchard Park. The church float took second place. While it's nothing more than a plaquard, it was still nice for them to be recognized. It's a lot of hard work to put together a float, and it isn't easy to play music live on a moving float either.                     

 

And now it's August. This month is going to be rather busy in itself. Not that it's a bad thing. But at least this way I've checked in and anyone that was curious about whaqt I've been up to won't feel so out of the loop. Not that I really think anyone has been concerned about what I've been up to.

 

On the plus side, If I can get things figured out I may be able to set up a regular schedule sometime in the near future. But for now This is just a checking in post.

Freedom's Lost

Freedoms are no longer free
they all come with a cost.
people have become unwise
common senses lost.

There is a certain hunger
driving common man,
looking for a wealth
without a cause to understand.

Freedom once meant flying
on wings of fancy free
now our wings are clipped
and the skies only to be seen.

Kept grounded from our purpose,
lost in others dreams.
things are more confusing
our own ripped at the seams.

but even in this madness
and the sadness that we see
there is still a chance there
that we all yet can be free

The chains may yet be broken
of the grounding we have gained
if we realize and see now
That we are the ones to blame.

By giving others power
over the choices we may have
we've given them our freedoms
Becoming societies slaves

They take away our reason
leave us barely to survive
but even as they grieve us
they leave us yet alive

Ours eyes can see
our ears still hear
our days go moving on
The time is marching swiftly
As the years fly seasonally on

Don't despair of freedom
there is no true loss you see
you're only ever as free
as you believe yourself to be

k.m.b. 2013

Perspective

So the past month has been full of ups and downs. But that's the way that life is. We're all given choices to make, and our choices influence the way things in our lives go. So keep your mind open, and remember that  there are multiple ways to see something. That's what helps to keep life interesting.